When the Bestie Becomes More Important than the Bride-to-Be

You’re not wrong for expecting to be a priority, that’s the foundation of marriage. If he doesn’t respect your place now, marriage won’t magically fix it. Try to have a calm but firm conversation about boundaries. If he truly values the relationship, he’ll make changes. But if he continues to dismiss your feelings, you may need to re-evaluate whether this is the future you want. Remember, love should never make you feel like you’re competing.

Below 👇 is the message I got

Hi, I don’t know if I’m overreacting but I feel so hurt. I’m engaged, and instead of feeling like the happiest bride-to-be, I feel invisible in my own relationship. My fiancé always prioritizes his female best friend. He shares things with her before telling me, runs to her when he has issues, and even makes major decisions after discussing with her, not me.

It makes me feel like I’m the outsider, like she’s the one he’s building life with, not me. I’ve tried talking to him, but he insists “she’s just a friend” and that I’m insecure. But how can I not feel insecure when my future husband doesn’t see me as his closest person?

I’m beginning to question if this marriage will ever work, because right now I feel like I’m competing with someone who shouldn’t even be in the picture this much. Please, am I wrong to expect him to choose me first? Should I walk away or still hold on, hoping he’ll change after marriage?