My 2cent To The Sender.....
Your pain is deep, and it’s valid. It’s one of the hardest things in life when the people you love most begin to see you through someone else’s bitterness. But you must understand this, silence will not heal this. You need to take action, but with wisdom and calm.
Start by documenting everything. Keep records of incidents and words, especially if your wife continues turning the children against you. Seek family counseling, not to win her over, but to help your children hear both sides and understand truth from manipulation.
When you speak to your children, never insult their mother. As tempting as it is, don’t fall into the same trap. Instead, speak with honesty, kindness, and love. Time has a way of revealing truth. Children grow up and eventually see things for themselves. "Karma Knows Everyone's Address"
Focus on rebuilding your peace. Pray for them. Work on yourself and stay grounded. The home may be divided now, but don’t stop being a father. Continue being present, even when it hurts.
And to every reader out there, never use children as weapons. The damage runs deep, and one day, those children will see who truly loved them and who only used them to win a fight.
You can lose a marriage and still save your soul. But when you lose your children to hatred, that’s a wound that never fully heals. Protect your peace, and let time and truth fight for you.
Sometimes, the battle in a home isn’t between strangers, it’s between a husband and wife using their children as weapons. This inbox story is from a troubled father who watched his own family turn against him because of the words of the woman he once loved.
Below 👇 👇 👇 Is The Message I got.....
I’m writing this with a heavy heart because I honestly don’t know what to do anymore. I’ve been married for 18 years, and what used to be a peaceful home has turned into something I can barely recognize.
My wife and I were once best friends. We built everything together. I’m not rich, but I’ve always tried to provide for my family and raise our three children in love and unity. Somewhere along the line, things changed. I noticed she started speaking ill of my family, calling them controlling, selfish, and wicked. At first, I ignored it, thinking it was just frustration or misunderstanding. But over time, she began saying those things in front of the children.
She would twist situations, making my siblings and even my mother look like enemies. Whenever my mother tried to visit, she would pick a fight or pretend to be sick. She began to poison the minds of our children with lies, telling them that my mother used charms to stop her business from growing, that my sisters hated her success, and that I was a weak man for always defending them.
Now, my children hardly greet me. My eldest son, who used to be very close to me, calls me a coward and says I allowed “witches” to ruin our home. My daughters don’t even want to visit my mother anymore. They see her as a dangerous woman who brings “bad luck.”
It breaks me because I don’t recognize my family anymore. I can’t talk to my own children without hearing her voice in their words. They believe everything she says, and no matter what I do, I’m always the villain in their eyes.
I’ve thought about leaving, but how do I abandon my own children? How do I walk away from the same people I sacrificed everything for? Sometimes I wonder if my wife still loves me or if she just enjoys watching me crumble.
I’m tired. I’m broken. I just want peace again, but how do you find peace when your own home has become a battlefield, and your children no longer see you as their father but as an enemy?
3 Comments
Some women are evil, I wonder what she gained in whatever she's doing to their children. I now I might sound insensitive but oga what did you really do to her that made start do this? You must have done something that triggered her to this point.
ReplyDeleteNot every story is about “what the man did” or “what the woman did.”
DeleteSome people just choose bitterness over healing.
Even if the husband offended her, turning the children against their own father is never justifiable. Two adults can have issues, but dragging innocent kids into emotional warfare is wickedness, not revenge.
Let the man tell his story without assuming he must have done something terrible. Some women and men use children as weapons, and it destroys those kids in ways they won’t understand until adulthood.
Oga, sorry you’re going through this. Not every woman does this because the man “did something.” Some people just let anger or bitterness control them.
ReplyDeleteJust keep being a good father, children grow up and eventually see the truth for themselves. Stay calm. Your peace matters.