My brother, first of all, I want to commend your strength. Many men would have broken down completely after such betrayal, but you picked yourself up, built a family, and today you are living well with your wife and children. That in itself is a testimony that God vindicated you.
This woman is not coming back to you because she loves you. She is coming back because life has humbled her, and she now sees the value of the man she threw away. Her sudden regret has nothing to do with love and everything to do with her comfort and survival. She abandoned you when you needed her most, and if you give her any space now, she will only bring chaos into the beautiful home you’ve built.
My advice is simple: protect your peace, protect your wife, protect your children. Block her completely, not just on social media but in every way possible. If she continues stalking or sending unpleasant messages, you can consider involving the authorities for harassment. Do not confront her directly, because that will only give her the attention she is craving. Silence is the loudest response you can give her.
Most importantly, do not let her destroy the trust and happiness in your marriage. Be open with your wife, continue to reassure her, and focus on the family that stood by you when this woman betrayed you. She is your past, not your future.
Sometimes, the people we sacrifice everything for are the same ones who break us the most. Love can blind us, and betrayal from someone you trusted with your whole heart leaves scars that time struggles to heal. But what happens when the betrayer comes crawling back, years later, after you’ve built a new life?
Good day, please keep me anonymous. I am a 45year-old man, married with 2 beautiful children, and currently living in the US. But there is a part of my past that keeps haunting me, and I really need advice.
Before I got married, I had a girlfriend I loved deeply. She was everything to me, and I thought our future was sealed. I believed in her so much that when she got an admission to study in Canada, I sold some of my properties and even took loans just to sponsor her education. Everyone around me, my parents, siblings, and even close friends, warned me not to. They said I was foolish to sacrifice so much for a woman who might never look back. But I refused to listen. I told myself they didn’t understand our love.
For years, I supported her financially while she was in Canada. I cut down my own expenses, postponed my dreams, and endured mockery from people who suspected she would betray me. My only consolation was the hope that after her graduation, she would return, and we would get married.
But to my shock and heartbreak, one day she called to tell me she had married a white man. She claimed it was for “papers” and “security,” but deep down, I knew she had chosen him over me. My whole world crashed that day. I cried in silence, but I never told anyone because I was too ashamed. I couldn’t face the “we told you so” from my family.
I carried that pain silently until I met my now wife, who I opened up to. She stood by me, loved me genuinely, and together, we built a beautiful life. We moved to the US, and God has blessed us with children and stability. I finally thought that chapter of my life was closed.
But now, four years later, this same woman has started haunting me again. She found my contacts, created fake social media accounts, and even sent my wife unpleasant messages. She claims the white man she married mistreats her and that she regrets leaving me. She says I should invite her to the US and give her another chance because “I was her true love all along.”
The problem is, I don’t feel anything for her anymore, only anger and resentment for what she put me through. Yet, her constant messages, stalking, and attempts to destabilize my marriage are frustrating me. Sometimes I wonder if I should just confront her directly, tell her to move on, or completely ignore her. My wife knows everything, and although she’s strong, I fear this woman might cause unnecessary chaos in my marriage.
What should I do? Should I block her completely again and act like she doesn’t exist, or should I confront her one last time to make her stop?
If you were in his shoes, what would you do? Would you confront her one last time or block her completely and move on with your life?
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Can't even
ReplyDeleteSimple thing to do sir. Block and report her to the appropriate channel. Her second coming will cause and your doom.
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